We all need some self-care, especially us mothers! But how often do we prioritise ourselves? Find out how you can create a self-care routine you love!
I was speaking to a friend of mine about kids and family the other day. She’s a single working mum with a great sense of humour. And she called the time her kid goes to bed ‘wine o’clock’! My sides almost split with the way she said it – in a “Put a fork in me, I AM DONE” manner of speech!
I could totally relate. And I love that idea because it just signalled that after her kid was in bed, that was her time to relax and take a bit of time for herself. We all need some self-care. Especially us mothers!
And if raising kids wasn’t hard enough by itself, adding a full-time job to that certainly makes it all the more important to take care of yourself.
But how often do we prioritise ourselves as mothers?
How often do we take time out in our day to soak in the tub? Or give ourselves a facial? Or paint our toenails blue? Just saying…
The truth is, we usually prioritise everyone else except ourselves. But that often leaves us feeling depleted, drained and unable to give our best to our loved ones and our work.
The fact is, that when we take care of ourselves, we’re really taking care of our loved ones too. They benefit from a mum who is more relaxed, energised, healthy and feeling good about herself. And our work benefits from our revitalised attitude and a refreshed outlook.
So then, what’s stopping us?
You and I both know that there are a hundred reasons for you NOT to run the bath and grab a good book. There are a million other things we could be doing or should be doing instead.
Now, that word ‘should’ is a tricky one. Because it often comes packed with a whole load of guilt.
The simple truth is that we can’t do everything. We have to choose what we consider most important in every moment of our day. Because when you choose to do ONE thing, you are in fact choosing NOT to do a hundred other things you could be doing at that very moment.
My suggestion is that you choose to prioritise self-care occasionally – above the other hundred things you could be doing with your time. Yes, taking some time out to refresh yourself is a choice you can prioritise over watching that TV show, wiping down that counter or folding and pressing those knickers, my friend.When we take care of ourselves, we're really taking care of our loved ones too.Click To Tweet
Are we agreed, then, that it’s ok to occasionally prioritise some time for yourself despite the many unfolded knickers that are calling your name? I hope so! Then let’s move on.
How do you create a self-care routine?
Decide on a frequency
Firstly, you need to decide how often you’d like to take some time out for yourself. Once a week is often a manageable interval. But if you’re a die-hard altruist who can’t bear the thought of all that self-indulgent time, then perhaps once a month is where you start.
Honestly, though, we need to be taking some time out for ourselves at LEAST once a month (preferably more) if we want to give our best to others. So even if you are Mother Theresa reincarnated, your VIP’S and your work will benefit from a better version of you. Because you’re spending some regular time taking care of yourself.
So if you can stomach the thought of a few squares of chocolate and a glass of wine with your feet soaking in a bowl of warm water and essential oils, then take one for the team. Prioritise yourself more frequently than once a month – for the good of the people!! 😉
Consider this time to be like a pit-stop. Where you refuel and change your tyres so that you can get back on the road and continue blazing dust! And the more hectic your life, the more important frequent pit-stops are for you to continue operating at top-speed!
Or, consider how effective your phone would be if you only charged it once a month. (Who does that by the way?) See where I’m going with this?The more you're required to give, give, give, the more you also need to recharge and replenish yourself.Click To Tweet
So don’t think that because you’ve got a crazy-busy life that you can’t take some time out for yourself. In fact, the opposite is true. Your crazy-busy life is a sure indicator that you desperately need to prioritise self-care.
Decide on a time of day
Now that you’ve decided how frequently you’re going to be taking some time out for yourself, it’s now time to decide when this will happen.
Perhaps one or two hours in the evening works for you. Or maybe a couple hours on a Saturday morning is better for your family’s schedule. Or maybe your schedule is constantly changing like mine. If that’s the case, you might need to take an evening one week and a morning the next.
The important thing here is to find a space in your calendar when you can spend some time on yourself and then schedule it in your diary.
Make it an appointment
If you need to arrange for childcare with your spouse or you want to ensure your kids are in bed, then you can plan ahead for that. You won’t be caught unawares by that dinner at your in-laws that you forgot about. Or that quick dash to the shops for a present for Aunt Mabel.
Looking at your calendar for the next month and making an appointment with yourself means that you are making the decision to prioritise self-care.
And it also means, that if you do need to make a dash to the shops for Aunt Mabel one Saturday morning and your diary says “Coffee date with myself and a good book”, you’ve got a reminder to have a coffee date. You can move your coffee date to another morning (or evening). But at least it’s there to remind you to spend that time with yourself.
If you don’t put it in your diary, you’ll go through the weeks forgetting to prioritise your self-care. Then even Mother Theresa would be sending up a prayer on your behalf!
So, once a month, look ahead in your calendar and schedule your self-care times for the upcoming month. Make this a repeating task you do each month – for the good of the people!
Make a self-care list
The last and final step in creating your self-care routine is deciding what you’ll do in those special times.
I recommend making a list of all the refreshing, uplifting, relaxing activities you can think of. Remember, this is time for you to rejuvenate your spirit and help you feel refreshed, cared for, loved up and pampered. What would make you feel spoiled? What would make you feel relaxed, energised or inspired?
Your list would undoubtedly be different from mine. And that’s good! This list is just for you. So fill it with things that will recharge you.
Having a list to hand means that you’ll always have an idea of what you can do in those moments you’ve set aside to look after yourself.
I would go one step further and put an estimated time next to each activity. So, whether you’ve got ‘soak in the tub – 1 hour’ or ‘paint my toenails blue – 30 minutes’, you know how long it’ll take you to complete.
This is particularly handy if you’ve got a changing schedule. For example, you might have 2 hours on a Monday night one week, but then only 30 minutes on a Saturday morning the next.
See how beneficial it is to write the times down?
Want to know some of my favourites in my self-care routine?
I thought you’d never ask!
I LOVE Neal’s Yard Remedies’s products. They’re gorgeous organic products that I could happily indulge in every day! So here are some of the things I do in my self-care routine:
For my luxury facial;
- I first wash my face with my usual cleanser,
- then I use this Honey & Orange Facial Scrub.
- After I rinse that off, I pat my face dry and then apply this Face Mask which I leave on for about 15 minutes.
- When those 15 minutes are up, I rinse off the mask, pat my face dry, and
- wipe my face with this gorgeous Facial Toner applied to a cotton pad.
- Then I apply a thin layer of this Ultimate Beauty Balm – it seriously does wonders for your skin and has won so many awards. I LOVE IT!!
I wake up the next morning with skin that looks and feels refreshed and younger. This is definitely a treatment you’ll want to do regularly!
Products in my Luxury Facial:
Dreamy Feet Pedicure:
If my feet could use some TLC this is what I do;
- I grab a large basin (or even a large cooking pot – don’t worry, you’ll wash it afterwards!) and fill it with almost hot water, 1/2 cup of Epsom Salts and 3-4 drops of Lavender Essential Oil. I like almost hot water for my foot soak, but you can have your water at whatever temperature you prefer.
- Then I soak my feet in the basin for about 20 minutes while I watch a film or show on Prime Video (occasionally with a glass of wine) 😉
- Just before I take my feet out of the water, I rub my heels and the soles of my feet with a pumice stone to remove dead skin.
- When my feet are done soaking, I dry them with a towel and massage this Foot Balm all over them. My feet now feel as soft as if I were a pampered princess!
Sometimes I finish there, but if I’ve got time, then I also paint my toenails. This treat is a ‘must do’ during the summer months. But I also find that in the run-up to Christmas, my poor feet could always use a little tender loving care.
Products in my Dreamy Feet Pedicure:
Queen of Sheba Bath Soak:
My kingdom for a bath!! Sometimes, with three kids underfoot, having a soak in a bath is one of those rare moments when all the stars align. And when they do, this is what I like to do;
- Run a hot bath with 1 cup of Epsom Salts, 8-10 drops of Lavender Essential Oil and a handful of oats tied in a muslin. You can skip the oats if you want. They produce oat milk which turns your average bath into something more akin to the indulgent baths the Queen of Sheba would have had. I don’t know about you, but I can’t get asses milk anywhere – not even on Amazon – I mean, is THIS legit? Oats’ll have to do instead!
- I grab a good book and sit in that tub without thinking about the time – heavenly? You bet!
- When I’m sufficiently prune-like, I rub my skin with this gorgeous Body Scrub – it’s amazing!! You won’t even need to moisturise your skin when you get out of the bath when you use it. And my skin smells beautiful too! I love it so much that I make sure I never run out of stock as I use it frequently in the shower.
- Then I rinse off the body scrub, step out of the bath and pat my skin dry. That’s it! I’m done!
Because that body scrub is so moisturising, I don’t need to cream my skin when I get out of the bath. I may apply this Foot Balm, but that’ll be it. I’m pretty sure the Queen of Sheba would be jealous of my skin after this pampering session!
Products in my Queen of Sheba Bath Soak:
I’m no professional beauty therapist. But having had several professional manicures done, this is how I give myself a manicure at home;
- I fill a bowl with warm water and 1 drop of Lavender Essential Oil.
- I let my hands sit in the warm water for 5 to 10 minutes until my cuticles are soft and pliable.
- When they are done soaking, I massage this Hand Polish all over my hands and rinse it off. Your hands will love you for this!
- Then I grab my cuticle pusher and trimmer and push the cuticles of my nails back, trimming off any excess cuticle skin.
- When that’s done, I massage my hands with this cream to make them super soft. Honestly, you won’t stop stroking your hands when you’re done!
- Then I take a cotton ball with a bit of nail polish remover on it and lightly wipe my nails to remove any trace oils. This allows my nail polish to hold better.
- I then apply my nail polish in this order:
- one layer of base coat
- two layers of nail colour
- one layer of top coat
Because this process (nail polish application) can take some time, I like to do this whilst watching a movie on Prime Video! Girly flicks are great for this kind of treatment!! 😉
Products in my Mama’s Manicure:
So, what are you waiting for?
Don’t these treatments make you want to pull out your lotions and potions right now and start pampering yourself? They do for me!
Creating a self-care routine is so important for your health, stamina and energy. I hope you’re inspired to create a self-care routine for yourself today. And for the benefit of your VIP’s! Let me know in the comments what you like to do in your self-care moments!